Fingering

Fingering is when someone uses their finger(s) or hand to stimulate their partner’s vagina.

Many people think fingering is all about inserting one or more fingers in the vagina but there is much more to it. Fingering will get you aroused and even cum. 

How do you do it?

1. Be prepared: trim your nails and smooth them with a nail file. Scratching or cutting such a sensitive area would be a game over for you. 
2. Make sure your hands are clean. Women are very vulnerable to urinary tract infections which can be caused by bacteria living on your hands.
3. Cold hands are a big turnoff; don’t forget to warm them up
4. Be aware that fingering is less straightforward than handjobs. It is not gripping and shaking. It takes more finesse and gentleness 
5. Think of fingering as a multistage process

• Stage 1: get her in the moods
• Stage 2: increase her level of arousal
• Stage 3: reach for her genitals 

If you don’t dedicate enough time to stages 1 and 2, either you won’t be allowed to reach stage 3, or if you are, she won’t be ready for it and won’t enjoy it fully. 

1. Once you start touching her genitals, stimulate her vulva by gently caressing her labia and indirectly stimulating her clitoris. Remember that the clitoris is not the only area sensitive to stimulation. The labia and the first portion of the vaginal canal have plenty of nerve endings as well.
2. Direct stimulation of the clitoris should initially be avoided, as its high sensitivity could cause some discomfort to your girlfriend. Try indirect stimulation by touching the skin surrounding it or by using the palm of your hand to massage the area of the mons pubis just above it. 
3. When it is time to pass through the small lips of the vagina and reach the parts of the vulva underneath, don’t try to push your fingers through. Instead, part the lips of the vagina by running your fingers between them starting from below. 
4. Enter the vagina only if you feel enough lubrication. If your girlfriend isn’t sufficiently lubricated, it means she hasn’t yet achieved the right level of sexual stimulation and the timing isn’t right. Just give her more time. Continue with passionate kissing and external stimulation of the clitoris and labia. 
5. The opening of a woman vagina varies in size, depending on the presence and shape of the hymen. (thin tissue partially closing the vaginal opening) do not force yourself in or you might hurt her. Use lubrication to gently ease your finger inside. The hymen is a pretty elastic tissue and with a bit of patience and enough lubrication you should be able to enter the vagina without causing pain or tearing the hymen. 
6. When you enter the vagina, forget any ideas of useless in and out motion. Try stimulating the couple of inches on the front wall of the vagina, directly underneath the mon pubis, where the g-spot is located. This area can be the source of intense sensations. 
7. The more sexually excited your partner gets, the more her vulva will engorge. Although you might not be able to see this, you should be able to feel it. The labia majora (big lips) will open up a bit more and provide easier access to the inner parts. Also the clitoris will engorge making it easier to locate by touch. 
8. At some point, as sexual excitement mounts, your partner will start moving her pelvis in sync with your stimulation. That is an unmistakable signal that she really likes what you are doing and you shouldn’t change a thing. Keep doing what you are doing and you might lead her to an orgasm.
9. Final note; if at some point you start playing with your girlfriend anus, remember that you must not put the finger back in the vagina or you will be running a very high risk of infecting the vagina with anal bacteria