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How can women increase their chances of enjoying their first time?

Many women don’t have great memories of their first time. Most of them were pretty nervous often because they had only a vague idea of what was about to happen, the experience was short-lived, they felt very little pleasure, and in several cases sex was actually quite painful.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Here are a few things you can do to improve your chances of enjoying your first time:

  1. First of all, do what most women don’t do: educate yourself about the sexual act. 

This means you’ll know what to expect instead of putting your fate in your partner’s hands. 

By being informed, you’ll be more confident about your decision to have sex and more relaxed about what is going to happen. 

Keep in mind that anxiety can cause involuntary tension of the lower abdominal muscles, which makes penetration more difficult.

  1. You can also prepare your body for sex by progressively stretching your hymen during masturbation (this reduces the risk of pain from tearing) and by engaging in adequate foreplay (arousing activity that comes before sex) so that you’re fully lubricated when penetration begins. 

It also doesn’t hurt to keep some artificial lubricant handy in case natural lubrication seems insufficient.

  1. Guide your partner during the first penetration by making sure he uses a slow, progressive in-and-out movement, so that his penis enters the vagina a bit more each time. 

If he tries to push his penis in all at once, the excessive friction can cause both of you serious pain.

  1. Be aware that men tend to reach orgasm much more quickly than women do.

 When that happens, and your partner loses his erection (his penis become soft), lovemaking might end for both partners. 

So the first thing you should do to prolong your pleasure is to try to delay his orgasm as much as possible. 

One way to do that is to ask him to slow down his movements, maybe adding that you are really enjoying having sex with him and that you want it to last as long as possible. 

Another trick you could use is to change positions, which should give him the chance to cool down a bit.

  1. Finally, if your partner does reach orgasm before you do, and you want lovemaking to continue, tell him that you don’t want it to stop. 

The fact that he’s lost his erection doesn’t mean he’s lost the ability to give you pleasure. Manual and/or oral stimulation can prolong your pleasure and even lead you to orgasm.

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