I am not ready for sex but I am afraid to lose my partner. What should I do?

You should do what feels right for you!

Sex is a big step in anybody’s life—a step you should take only when you feel ready. 

Having sex at the right time can be an amazing physical and emotional experience that deeply strengthens your relationship with your partner.

But if you do it before it feels right because you’re scared of losing your partner, you will transform a wonderful thing into a sacrifice—into a price you had to pay.

Giving in to your partner’s pressures might keep your relationship together, but what about you?

How are you going to feel about yourself afterward?

How are you going to feel about somebody who pushed you to do something you weren’t ready for?

Shouldn’t a good relationship be about acceptance and respect in addition to love?

If your partner is pressing you to have sex before you’re ready, he’s definitely showing you disrespect—and if you give in, you’re showing yourself disrespect, too.

Explain to your partner that you love him but do not feel ready for sex yet. If your partner really cares about you, he’ll give you the time you need. 

After all, there are many other ways to be intimate and to give each other pleasure.

If your partner refuses to understand your needs, then you should start asking yourself whether this is the right person for you.