Communication In a Relationship - Sylvester

“My Day One”
I liked this girl from day one, I asked her out, and we started dating. Everything was going well. But an issue arose, and I had to go further away from her for school. This would mean we would not see each other as often as we would like. Neither of us liked this, but what could we do? It was out of our control. We would try and call each other, but she started to get jealous. Every time we spoke, it would always lead to an argument; she thought I was being unfaithful to her. I tried to assure her that she could trust me and that I was all in this relationship.

“Things felt sided.”

Things began feeling one-sided. I was the one who was always calling her, constantly texting her first. Yet, she did not initiate any communication between us. Continuing like this was breaking my heart. I felt like I was forcing issues. Two could play this game. So I kept quiet and didn’t initiate any contact. Days, weeks, and months went by, and suddenly a year had passed without us talking or seeing each other. I had forgotten all about her.

“Rekindling”

One day out of the blue, I got a text from her but did not respond. The next day she decided to call me. I answer, and we talk for a bit. We picked up where we left off and decided to plan a visit. We agreed that she would come on that Saturday. On the awaited day, things flowed, and one thing led to another, and we had sex. It’s something I had been looking forward to when we started dating. After, I escorted her to the bus stop and said we would keep in touch… But things went back to radio silence. I thought we were good.

“Taking some time.”

This experience left me shaken and scarred. After that, I did not want to be in another relationship. I was not ready to get hurt again. But, as time passed, I realized not every relationship would be like this, not every relationship would feel like this, and when the time is right, I will get back out there.