My First Heartbreak- Abbie 22

“It was soul-crushing and devastating.”

I have never given heartbreak much thought; I guess I never went through it; I didn’t think about it. This was until I went through it. It was soul-crushing and devastating. It all started in high school when my friends and I decided to go swimming one afternoon. As we were there, I met a boy, we started talking and vibing. As we were leaving, we exchanged contacts and hoped we’d meet soon.

“Honeymoon phase”

We started talking almost immediately, and we were spending all of our free time together. Soon after, we started dating, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. I was glad and happy. The start of our relationship was happy. We were in the honeymoon phase of our relationship. We were always texting and calling each other. Going on dates and doing fun activities together.

“Unwanted advances”

After a year, all was good, despite a few challenges here and there, but we worked through them. One day, he invited me to their family function. I gladly accepted, and we went. I got to meet his family and extended relatives finally. We ate, danced, laughed and had a good time all around. A few days after the function, I got a text from an unknown number. Upon inquiring further, I found out it was from my boyfriend’s brother. It all started very innocently until one day, he said he'd like to visit. On his arrival, he started making advances towards me, making me feel uncomfortable. He would touch me unwantedly and follow me everywhere. I didn’t want any of these advances, and I tried telling him, but he didn’t listen.

“My heartbreak”

I finally decided to tell my boyfriend what was happening, but he didn’t believe me. He accused me of being a liar and a deceiver. He said I was the one who was making those unwanted advances towards his brother. I tried pleading with him, telling him the truth, but it fell on deaf ears.

This meant the end of our relationship. I couldn’t believe he didn’t believe me. This broke my heart that he would not believe me or what had happened.

“From the ashes, I rose.”

I left, and I have never looked back. From this break-up, I learned the importance of being strong and brave and that I can handle anything thrown at me. With time, I healed from this experience and moved forward, hopeful for a better future. Now, I am in a new and happy relationship where we have open communication, honesty and trust.