Empowering Healthy Relationships -Jean 21

When I stepped into college, I was filled with excitement and curiosity. Little did I know that the challenges I faced in high school would pale compared to what awaited me on campus. Peer pressure was about to unleash its full force on my life.

Peer Pressure Unleashed

As I settled into college, I unexpectedly reconnected with a boy I had known since high school. We attended campuses not too far from each other, and as we spent more time together, I couldn't ignore how sweet he was. I decided to take a chance and accepted his offer to be his girlfriend.

The Dilemma of Expectations

Being his girlfriend came with "certain" expectations, and I wasn't ready for it. The idea of having sex made me anxious, but I mustered the courage to converse honestly with him. I hoped he would understand, but I faced gaslighting and manipulation instead. He argued that, as my first boyfriend, he had the right to "take" my virginity and that I shouldn't "save it" for someone else. He even questioned if I truly loved him and said I needed to prove it through physical intimacy. I felt lost and confused, wondering if I was the one with a problem.

Seeking Clarity

Determined to find guidance, I stumbled upon the one2one helpline, where I could talk to a professional counsellor. Speaking to a stranger about something so personal felt strange, but I had no one else to turn to. The counsellor gave me the clarity I needed. I didn't have to be manipulated into doing something I wasn't ready for. Being my first boyfriend didn't give him ownership over my body, and I had every right to set boundaries in my relationships. The counsellor also shattered the misconception that sex was an obligation in a connection unless both parties agreed.

Taking Back Control

Armed with newfound clarity, I made one of my life's most challenging but empowering decisions. I chose to leave the toxic relationship before making a choice I might regret. Yes, he was my first boyfriend, but that didn't mean he had the right to dictate my decisions. I vowed not to let peer pressure sway my choices in the future. It was time to understand my feelings, respect my boundaries, and stand against manipulation.

Empowering Healthy Relationships

With the support of the counselling helpline, I immersed myself in educational workshops about healthy relationships, communication, and sexual health. Joining a peer support group provided a safe space to share experiences and learn from others. I also participated in a social media campaign, spreading awareness and empowering my fellow college students to make informed choices and build healthy relationships based on mutual respect and consent.

Seeking Help

My journey taught me the power of seeking help and standing up against peer pressure. Through the intervention designed to empower healthy relationships, I found the strength to break free from manipulation and pave the way for a fulfilling and confident future. I am Jean, and this is how I embraced my worth and took control of my life.