My boyfriend raped me during my first time - Maggie, 19

Freshman
I'm Maggie and I am 19. I was a fresher at Masinde Muliro University. I had been admitted to do education arts and was so excited to chase my dream career and make it to campus. I was overjoyed by all the fun stories we had heard on campus about how it's fun, the high life and boys chasing you everywhere. This is where I planned to lose my virginity, finally!

I looked hot
I was staying inside the school hostels, and as I attended a class in my second month on campus, I was wearing a hot, red dress. 'Nilikua nawakunywa' everywhere. So this dude approached me; I guess I attracted him. He had a good stature. His dress sense was also top-tier, and he had nice vibes. So we exchanged numbers, and we became an item. He took things slow after I informed him I was a virgin.

I enjoyed spending time with him
He apparently lived outside the school in a bedsitter. I preferred spending the most time at his place, cuddling, kissing, and sometimes I would wash his clothes. I was having the time of my life. The stories of campus were true indeed, or so I thought.

The day he raped me
On September 17, 2022, it was a normal sleepover. This time, things were different. We tried to avoid having sex, but we couldn’t. When he urged me to undress, I realized I didn’t want to. I tried telling him to stop, but he thought I was joking. I felt so disrespected since I meant my words. I was not ready for sex at the time. The pain was unbearable, and I was miles away from home. I cried my heart out whilst he thought I was moaning. Good thing he didn't last long, but I felt every stroke, blood on his sheets. He left me there, and he was smiling.

No means No
A few days later, I confronted him about the incident. He didn't believe it again; he thought I was joking. After two weeks, I stopped talking to him when he saw that I was serious. He came back and apologized for it. I broke up with him and reminded him that no, means no. It is just that simple.